During recess in elementary school the boys would chase the girls and then chain us down to the ground with all their weight on each arm. It was literally an everyday occurrence that was a bitter/sweet activity. On the one hand, it was fun being chased by the boys because it made us girls feels special; on the other hand, it wasn’t very fun being yoked down under the weight of their captivity. The very weightiness of our mortal existence is described as defying gravity. Through it all, we’re on a journey of enjoyment, learning and love to reason, repent and become responsible.
Learning to have the gift of reason: I have had three foreign exchange students live in my home in the past 10 years all of whom have had their own beliefs. My first student was my German son who one day asked me what I thought about homosexuality. I jokingly told him God didn’t make Adam and Steve, rather Adam and Eve. Of course, then I became serious when I told him what my real belief was based on personal revelation. I don’t remember where I was or when I had my experience, but I’ll never forget my feelings after I asked God what He could teach me about LGBTQ. My heart was instantly filled with such deep love that I knew at that moment how special these LGBTQ children of God are in his eyes. I have a personal witness that LGBTQ children have the capability to love like no others and only parallel to our Father in Heaven. This is a remarkable gift. Their ability to love others is certainly the greatest gift of all. Defying gravity is to understand others and learn to reason through the help of God.
Learning to repent: If I could have one wish, it would be to foster this kind of charity, and the wisdom to learn from others, from God and from my own experiences. Wisdom gives me the ability to see beyond my own self. Would if this existence we call life was really only a mirrored image of our own making through our thoughts, desires and actions? Would if everything we see around us came about from our own doing? That is a sobering thought and a rather frightful revelation. What would we change? How would we see others? What would be our motivating force? Would we allow our fears to be the driving source of momentum or our faith? One Gay inactive member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints said, “We invite each other to share our stories. And then we listen. We just listen”. Insights from an Inactive Gay Mormon by John Bonner LDS LIVINGMay/June 2018 How wonderful it would be if more people sat in the pews of our church who are different that than us. They want to come, we just need to repent from the sin of omission.
Learning to see and love others as our Father in Heaven is an important equivalent in understanding our purpose on earth; Adam fell that man might be; and men are that they might have joy 2 Nephi 2:25 When Adam fell, sin was introduced into the equation. Michalangelo was noted as saying, “Every block of stone has a statue inside it and it is the task of the sculptor to discover it. I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free. Each of us is like the block of stone. The primary purpose of religion is to liberate us from ignorance and sin. Jesus Christ was the great liberator and said, “Deliver us from evil.” He gave us the law of repentance. Missionary work gets us out of comfort zone and helps us learn from other’s point of view.
Learning to be responsible: Our mortality provides us with the necessary opposition to act as carving tools that set free the angel inside each of us. However, to be wise, we must learn from our wrong doings and build upon them to achieve the angel creation the Lord sees within each of us and abstain from evil. We may struggle our entire lives with these challenges that are carving out our angel, but we do not ostracize others during their refining process: “We gather and invite. We welcome and include. We turn down the vitriol and turn up, to full volume, the actual meaning of love. We claim each other. And we go on claiming each other, time and time again, no matter what happens-for we are all part of the same body of Christ. In the words of Ruth, “Whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and they God my God” Ruth 1:16)”. Insights from an Inactive Gay Mormon by John Bonner LDS LIVINGMay/June 2018
One thing we need to decipher is the difference between sin and weakness. In Ether 12:27, Moroni feared men would judge him because of his weakness in writing. “God did not tell him to repent. Instead, the Lord taught him to be humble and to have faith in Christ. As we are meek and faithful, God offers grace—not forgiveness—as the remedy for weakness. Grace is an enabling power from God to do what we cannot do on our own (see Bible Dictionary, “Grace”)—the appropriate godly remedy by which He can “make weak things become strong.” It Isn’t a Sin to Be Weak
The Lord says the whole world groans under its weight of iniquity. In other words, gravity is literally the weightiness of sin to which we are all yoked due to our mortal existence. Just like I hated being pinned and “chained” down by the elementary school boys because it really did hurt and sometimes I fell and skinned my knees, gravity hurts, too. Defying gravity by being lifted up is only possible through the atonement of Jesus Christ. I might mention however; thanks to the boys chasing me, I learned to run faster, laugh, feel loved, and have joy and that is what this life is really about. Those scuffs and bruises make me tougher and help me stand back up with resolve to be better than I was yesterday through the help of our Savior.