The Hourglass

As if we were in an hourglass, the swirling sands of time spin our head and mind upward to the beginning where blue meets coral.

What is it that caries us on a rapid and winding channel, sapping the life force from us and spits us out at the bottom? Don’t we all feel like this at times?  We get so caught up in the whirlwind of life, that we forget to pause,  look up, and think back to the beginning of how we got in this predicament in the first place.  Often times, it’s during these moments after we’ve beaten ourselves up that we stop, reflect and examine ourselves and ask, “what the heck is the meaning of life anyway and why do I waste so much of my precious time?”.    “If life and its rushed pace and many stresses have made it difficult for you to feel like rejoicing, then perhaps now is a good time to refocus on what matters most.” Of Things That Matter Most” Dieter F. Uchtdorf

This week I learned about time management and what matters most to me.  I was presented with that moment in time when time stood still as I paused, looked up and did a quick self inspection.  The result?  An experienced change of heart and of being (I actually have those moments often either after a good read, a great time in nature like these pictures depict from my rappel in a slot canyon near my home, or as I am being taught by God).  It is through his holy prophets who have left His words in written form known as the scriptures both ancient and modern such as scriptures like Luke 18: 22 and 2 Nephi 25:26. But this time, my moment came through the means of another individual during a conference I was attending in Provo, Utah.

“Increase your capacity for Action” was the title of the lecture.  The speaker, Jim Stephens, taught the need to identify the difference between the things I can’t control in my life vs. the things I can control.  The things I can’t control are: The weather, what other’s choices are or how they perceive me, my chemical personality like my DNA make-up or if others place their own selves or jobs before me.  What I can control is how I react to others through patience and love.  How I prioritize my time so I can make time for me, God, my family, my community and my friends.

Leonardo da Vinci says that “simplicity is the ultimate sophistication” The Book of Positive Quotations, by John Cook, 2nd ed. (1993), 262..  Wise men like our prophets, apostles and successful businessmen all understand the lessons of running faster than we have strength and the need for simplicity.  “They resist the temptation to get caught up in the frantic rush of everyday life.  They follow the advice of Gandhi, {“There is more to life than increasing its speed.”}  In short, they focus on the things that matter most.” Of Things That Matter Most” Dieter F. Uchtdorf  This is the time when “We have to forgo some good things in order to choose others that are better or best because they develop faith in the Lord Jesus Christ and strengthen our families”.  Elder Dallin H. Oaks “Good, Better, Best

Often when I find myself rappelling down through life’s paths, I know I need to harness up by eliminating so much slack in the rope at my command.  I know I need to simplify my life and make necessary changes so that I can refocus on what I can control.  The most important part of my life begins at the top with God before I begin my decent down my daily path through prayer, meditation and scriptures.  When I begin at the top, no matter what obstacles get in my way, I begin to recognize what my purpose in this life is: “the sublime beauty of the simple, humble path of Christian discipleship-the path that leads always toward a life of meaning, gladness, and peace.”  Of Things That Matter Most” Dieter F. Uchtdorf





It was love at first sight!  It all began with a legal procedure.  Upon seeing this gorgeous bombshell legal secretary sitting behind a typewriter at his Attorney’s firm in Ogden, Utah, this recently divorced man’s only thoughts were, “how can I win this Marilyn Monroe look-alike over?”  His only logical approach was to turn his monthly child support visits into weekly ones just to get another chance with her; and never mind the engagement ring on her finger.  He was not taking “no” for an answer, and luckily for him, his tenacity paid off.  He was finally afforded a soda pop date that lead to another date with a huge question.

His best friend was soon to be married down in Southern Utah, and the thought of spending the entire weekend with her was tantalizing and so he invited her to go for the wedding by persuading her that riding down with his mom would help her feel less awkward.  She really thought it was a crazy thing to do, but this boy was so persistent. She realized it would be difficult to go away for that long without her fiancé finding out, and so she made up an alibi and gave her mother strict instructions about what to tell him if he asked her whereabouts:  She would be in Idaho visiting one of her BYU roommates for the weekend.

She was now off to his best friend’s wedding at the St. George temple and his reception in Logandale, Nevada.  Little did she know what events would follow on that fateful weekend 55 years ago last September.  Taking precedence over his honeymoon, the boy’s best friend stopped he and his date after the reception to give him some spiritual advice that would change his life forever.  He said, “why don’t we all knell down together in prayer and ask Heavenly Father if you two should get married?”.  After that prayer, the spirit didn’t only whisper, it sang in four-part harmony to the affirmative.  Soon, one marriage turned into two after a quick drive to Las Vegas…(the Justice of the Peace, Myron Leavitt, was off at the time, but because he happened to be a mutual cousin to both the boy and his best friend’s bride, he made an exception).   The story ended with another, very different legal procedure in the Clark County court house; the marriage of my parents!  Several years later, my parents were sealed in the Logan, Utah temple.  It was the beginning of my parent’s eventual 35 years together before his untimely passing at age 56, but not the end of their eternal marital bond made possible through the power of the Melchizedek priesthood.

My parent’s love story was guided by the hand of God and has won over many hearts with it’s humor and uniqueness. Although my parent’s marriage wasn’t perfect, I always knew they loved each other. Their devotion and love for each other was tangible and deep.  They really set such a standard to me in so many ways about what life and love is really about and how to trust in God by acting with faith in everything we do.  I learned by example from them as they remained true and faithful to their marital vows and covenants made within the holy temple of God.  They taught me that my purpose in life was to receive a healthy and beautiful body that I would learn to train as I remained true to gospel principals and my own ordinances and covenants that would eventually lead me to my future eternal spouse.

The greatest part of love is procreation and the cycle of life.   New life espoused within each of us should be treated with the greatest respect.  The Savior’s love for each of us is the greatest teacher in life of sacrifice and charity.   Thanks to my parent’s love of Jesus Christ, their sacrifices made for Him, for one another and for us, my siblings and I were better prepared for my father’s tragic death.  My earthly parents taught me the greatest lessons of these basic evolving and eternal life principals that I’ve always known forever in my soul, and now, I have faith that my children will perpetuate what my husband and I have taught them, and hopefully, each generation adds upon the strengths of the other for good.

P.S.  Sadly, my mom broke the news to her sister who then had to break the bad news to my Mom’s (x)fiancé that she had gone and eloped.

Trees- a metaphor


One day when we were having hurricane winds like we get here at times, I looked out my window and saw my neighbor’s newly planted tree blowing completely sideways.  I noticed his anchoring system was failing because his only tie down was now flapping everywhere.   Dust was blowing in his eyes and I could see he was going to have a difficult time doing this job by himself.  Just about the time I had made up my mind to go venture outside in the storm to help him, another neighbor wearing his Sunday suit came out of nowhere, (a member of our bishopric in my church).  He held up the tree while my neighbor tried anchoring it.  A few minutes later, here came the other two suit clad members of our bishopric carring several hefty stakes and strong ropes.  Soon, between these four men, my neighbor’s tree was anchored down so tight and rigid, I believe musical notes could be played with a bow on its strings.

The metaphor I learned from this picture that replays inside my brain has an interesting tie-down-anchoring affect in both my physical and spiritual life.   All young trees need to be anchored down while they are growing in order for them to become strong.  If a tree is tied down too tightly, the necessary resistance it needs to grow a strong enough trunk to bear the weight of its future branches is minimized. Trees can grown in the oddest of circumstances and even in harsh environments, but these elements can stifle their growth. Two of my trees grew crooked at the base of the trunk because my anchors were weak and due to high winds (in time they straightened up just fine and dandy, but the base still bears the permanent c-shape scars). On the other hand, neglect in anchoring trees can cause them to break in the wind and die.  Therefore, at a minimum, trees do best with at least two or three anchors.  Once the tree has been firmly grounded and strengthened by its bending and swaying, it’s roots are able to grow deep within the ground, giving it it’s own anchor of resistance.

We all need anchoring.  Ideally, two parents hold us steady in the wind, protecting us from the dangers we are incapable of withstanding alone.  Oppositional forces are necessary for our growth and development.  They make us stand stronger on our own when the time comes for the ties to be cut off.  We are now sturdy enough to bear the weight of our own branches and life’s heavy burdens we shall carry.  The anchors gave us the support when we needed it the most.  External forces strengthened us and now we can withstand greater opposition because we are firmly rooted.  The gospel of Jesus Christ does the same thing: All mankind is saved through His grace, but the demands of justice remained even though mercy was shown in our behalf:

“But know this: Truth, glorious truth, proclaims there is such a Mediator.

“‘For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.’ (1 Tim. 2:5.)

“Through Him mercy can be fully extended to each of us without offending the eternal law of justice.

“This truth is the very root of Christian doctrine. You may know much about the gospel as it branches out from there, but if you only know the branches and those branches do not touch that root, if they have been cut free from that truth, there will be no life nor substance nor redemption in them.

“The extension of mercy will not be automatic. It will be through covenant with Him. It will be on His terms, His generous terms, which include, as an absolute essential, baptism by immersion for the remission of sins.

“All mankind can be protected by the law of justice, and at once each of us individually may be extended the redeeming and healing blessing of mercy.  Aaronic Priesthood manual lesson 9 Justice and Mercy

The gospel of Jesus Christ anchors me with a firm foundation of repentance for a remission of my sins through His atoning sacrifice.  Adam fell that man can be, Christ atoned that man can be remitted from the original sin.  Because all mankind is in debt for this loan to the great creditor or Creator, an intercessory person was necessary to act in our behalf and to pay our debt. This was done by Jesus Christ, the Savior and Redeemer of the world.  Where Justice, Love and Mercy Meet

My neighbor’s tree metaphor really hits a cord with me.  There is not a single one of us who can escape life without pain and suffering.  Priesthood power holds us up against the blowing winds of resistance. Ropes and anchors are found within the binding ordinances and covenants we make with God.  We cannot see all things like God sees but it is through our faith and obedience that we are made wiser and stronger for following Him.   It’s up to us how we choose to allow opposition to affect us.  If we can see it as a means for our strengthening and conditioning, our roots can grow stronger and our branches broader. Our tree will be resilient and long-suffering.  What beautiful music to be heard at the judgement bar of God, COME UNTO CHRIST!




Are you as sick and tired of all the discord and clamor as I am? Discontentment is a huge issue with folks everywhere these days.  Many people do not seem at peace.  Loud voices are screaming in our faces, “you’re not good enough, you’re not smart enough, you’re not rich enough, you don’t think like me”! People are getting mean with each other over it. The love for mankind, peace and respect has nearly disappeared among us.

On the flip side, the people in Bali, Indonesia are unadulterated and real.  Their humble and caring nature seems to present a spirit of peace and contentment within~a true namaste.  What attributes!  I was inspired to discover what it is within their lifestyle that encapsulates these qualities .  Gradually it dawned on me, it is because of their daily sacrifices and offerings. Living the Law of Sacrifice has helped these people have balance and equality among themselves and to be happy with what they have been given in this life and, for the most part, they work along side one another in harmony and fellowship.  They are a humble people who do not put themselves above one another.

I believe in the law of sacrifice and know personally how by living it, I can clearly see His gifts laid before me.  Gratitude swells within my heart as I recognize my nothingness before our Almighty God, the creator of both heaven and earth.  How blessed we are by His almighty hand to have this earth whereupon to live, with all the food and raiment flowing in abundance for our sustenance.  He has blessed us with strong and capable bodies to complete the tasks required of us for good.

Learning to be content in life with what we have and with who we are is a lifelong quest. Today we are bombarded with images of who we think we should look or be like, or who we most surely don’t want to be like to the point of being annoying.  To me, this is a sad mark of pride among us.  Instead of celebrating our unique gifts, talents and idiosyncrasies, we rush out and get some sort of surgery to change us into looking like someone else, or by our raucous behavior, we try and force others to be/think like us.   I believe God has given us differences for a reason and with that, weaknesses to make us humble.   27 And if men come unto me I will show unto them their weakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them. Ether 12:27  

Beware of Pride  is the talk for this generation.  There are so many facets to pride that are nearly unfathomable for most of us comprehend; however, after reading this talk, these once enigmatic aspects of each of us become straightforward and clear.  “Pride is a very misunderstood sin, and many are sinning in ignorance…Most of us think of pride as self-centeredness, conceit, boastfulness, arrogance, or haughtiness.  All of these are elements of the sin, but the heart, or core, is still missing.  The central feature of pride is enmity-enmity toward God and enmity toward our fellowmen.   Enmity means [hatred toward, hostility to, or a state of opposition].  It is the power by which Satan wishes to reign over us….The scriptures abound with evidences of the severe consequences of the sin of pride to individuals, groups, cities, and nations [Pride goeth before destruction, Proverbs 16:18] It destroyed the Nephite nation and the city of Sodom [See Moro. 8:27; Ezek. 16:49-50]”. Beware of Pride April 1989 General Conference, Ezra Taft Benson  

With all the hype about the “progressive” movement, we should be aware that “Pride is a damning sin in the true sense of the word.  It limits or stops progression,[ see Alma 12:10-11].  The proud are not easily taught [1 Ne. 15:3, 7-11]. Pride results in secret combinations, contention, arguments, fights, unrighteous dominion, divorces, spouse abuse, riots, and disturbances.  The proud are easily offended and hold grudges.  They withhold forgiveness to keep another in their debt and to justify their injured feelings.  The proud do not receive counsel or correction easily.  The are defensive.  The proud depend upon the world to tell them whether they have value or not….They feel worthwhile as individuals if the numbers beneath them in achievement, talent, beauty, or intellect are large enough.  Pride is ugly.  it says, “if you succeed, I am a failure.”    The proud are not easily taught [1 Ne. 15:3, 7-11].  They won’t change their minds to accept truths, because to do so implies they have been wrong.” B.O.P. 1989, E.T.Benson  

What is the antidote to pride?  “Humility-meekness and submissiveness. Those of us who choose to humble ourselves by conquering enmity toward our brothers and sisters, esteeming them as ourselves, and lifting them as high or higher than we are”.  This formula will assist us in avoiding God’s compulsion in making us a humble people.  Alma 32:16The gospel of Jesus Christ teaches us how to humble ourselves as we take upon us the name of Christ and become disciples of His teachings.   We learn how to listen and obey, repent and be born again with water and fire (baptism/gift of the Holy Ghost-sacrament each Sunday) and how to show our love to God as well as to our fellow travelers on earth as we follow and live the laws of tithing, sacrifice, obedience, chastity, forgiveness, long-suffering, temperance and patience.  Articles of Faith 1:13

In short, if we humble ourselves before our Almighty maker just like I witnessed by the people of Bali, we can learn how to become content like them.  If we will simplify our lifestyles, recognize we are nothing before the great power of God, give more than we receive and live to love one another, our spiritual selves will take hold over our natural man tendencies. We will celebrate our uniqueness, having oneness, peace and contentment!


Bali <3


Bali, Indonesia is a land of people who adhere to deep family religious traditions that weave throughout all aspects of their lives on a daily basis.  At the entrance of every home, business and each villa at the Kayumanis private villa resort and spa where I was staying (whether there were guests or not), you will find a small woven tray made from banana or some other leaf containing a small portion of their food and flowers.   The offerings are called canang sar and are performed as rituals to thank Sang Hyang Widhi Wasa in prayerful praise and thanksgiving. They believe in karma in the sense that by giving up something of their time, talents and possessions and even their vices, they will receive good back from their Gods.

They believe in a trinity but worship many gods and goddesses such as Saraswati who is the goddess of knowledge, arts and music.  The traditionally worn dress and basket offerings on top of women’s heads was in honor of this special event celebrated every six months and happened to occur during the time I was there when it culminated with a huge parade beginning from one temple located at one end of Ubud, and running through the village, where I stayed, to another temple on the opposite side.

“Offerings are an essential part of worship. During puja a devotee presents gifts that, according to tradition, the particular god or goddess likes: often flowers, special foods, grains, coconuts, or oils. If the offering is made in a temple, a portion of it is kept for use by the temple, and the rest is returned, now blessed by the deity. Offerings made in the household shrine are later divided among family members. Reciprocity, the process of giving and receiving, is an essential aspect of Hinduism. Hindus are taught that by giving, they receive, and that when they receive, they should respond with gifts. When a Hindu prays for a specific favor from a deity, he or she may vow to present a special gift to the god or goddess or to perform an arduous duty if the wish is granted. Much of the apparent wealth of a temple and many of the good deeds carried out in a community are the direct results of honoring those religious commitments.”  Puja Why are offerings given to the Dieties Smithsonian 

Temples are the adorning trademark of Hinduism.  If you can see past the walled lining and into the resident’s courtyard, chances are you will not see their home but rather, you will see the top of beautiful stone carving temple spires reaching heavenward.  From the outside it is very difficult to decipher one’s wealth.  I asked someone how you can tell the rich from the poor.  He told me you can only tell once you’re on the inside of the home by the wood or stone carvings that ornate the walls…how unostentatious.

The good works of the Balinese people was demonstrated to me daily as each bowed in reverence with hands clapped together in namaste greeting me with “good morning Ibu”.  Their sweet and kind service to me was so humbling.  I truly wanted to package each one up and bring them home with me in my suitcase…didn’t think my suitcase was large enough or that my husband would approve, so I didn’t (this time) :).  However, I am a changed being because I know these beautiful people whose mile-wide white smiles and loving brown sparkling almond-shaped eyes greeted my green eyes with purity and integrity, honor and truth.  They are content with what they have and are unassuming in their purpose to serve and work.  They are a loving and content people who are unpretentious by nature.  I was very fortunate that the quaint and quiet resort where I stayed was located on the outskirts of Ubud city and right inside the village where it hires the local artisans and agriculturalists.

I loved everything about my vacation and pray that through my good Karma, sacrifice and service to others, I will be BACK!!!

(sorry about the blurry pics of these home temples….I was obviously driving by when I miraculously caught them just at the right times and at least it gives the viewer a glimpse of what my blog is about)



Starting a new year gives us a renewal of faith in ourselves and hope for a better year. There are two competing forces we all are playing a game of tug-of-war with daily:  To walk in the spirit or to follow the lusts of our flesh.  We all have our struggles in this mortal existence.  Have you found out yet that no matter if you win or lose at tug-of-war, you always end up with rope burns if you don’t wear gloves?    Are we all not in a Tug-of-war with temptation?  How can we win against the tug-of-war within us so we’re not left humiliated, abandoned, hurt, withdrawn, fallen down and burned?

Wearing gloves is like having a plan of action before we play the game of tug-of-war. Gloves provide us with protection from harm and are just like having a counterpart or someone with whom we can correspond about our change.   We must not hide in the dark any longer or think we can battle this alone.  Our counterpart is the go-to-person whom we can report to whenever temptation arise.

How do we define these temptations?  This is an interesting part of the equation because there are so many people in the world who may not consider “lusts of the flesh” evil. Because so many people have abandoned the faith of their fathers, they have succumbed to the belief that there is no faith or belief in God, therefore, there is no law, therefore, there is no need of judgment, therefore, there is no sin; these are signs of being in the yoke (rope) of bondage.

That there is no sin and no law and no God is the great lie Satan has promulgated across the world through the beginning of time and is the anti-Christ being taught in homes, schools and societies.   The sins of omission to the greater law are taught by Paul to the Galatians 5:16-21 “for he that lusts after the flesh are contrary to the spirit of God”:

16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

 18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

 19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

 20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,

 21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

“Paul taught the Galatians to rid themselves of the yoke “(or rope)” of bondage they were tied with because of being mislead by some of their Christian-Jewish leaders who were taught they needed to follow the law of Moses and be circumcised in order to be saved. Paul chastened the Galatians Saints for being so easily swayed away from the liberty of the gospel of Jesus Christ and returning instead to the bondage of the law of Moses. He then clarified that even though followers of Christ had been freed from the bondage of the law of Moses, that did not mean they had the freedom to indulge freely in sin.” New Testament Seminary Teaching Manual

Anything contrary to the spirit of God means we are on the losing side of the tug-of-war match and the results are loss of freedom; freedom within and freedom without. In 2 Corinthians 3:17 we learn “Now the Lord is that Spirit; and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty.  We must ask ourselves, “what is the spirit of the Lord and how do we know if it is there?” The fruits of the Spirit are love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, and temperance Galatians 5:22-23  

I pray this year is our year to win the tug-of-war with temptations as we visualize ourselves as free agents who have won the battle of addictions of the flesh as described by the apostle Paul.  How wise are the words of the prophets if we take the time to humble ourselves and realize we are nothing without the help of the Lord, His servants, His followers and others who are lovers of others rather than oneself.  Not only do we need help from each other to battle these temptations that so easily beset us, but we especially need the spirit of God and the Atonement of Christ who are the ultimate gloves of protection from getting burned from the rope of bondage.


Here is a progressive moment I’ll share with some “non” progressive thinkers this Sabbath day: “I think everyone should live together before they get married so they can see if it will work out before couples commit to marriage”, my friend said to me a few days ago.  We were talking about the success/failure of marriages within the Mormon culture to which we both belong, when suddenly this comment came out of her mouth.  I didn’t take much of a stand about how I really feel in regard to her statement because I didn’t want to offend her. Since I didn’t know or understand where she was coming from out of her life’s experiences, judging her belief may have proven fatal to our friendship.  Thank goodness I put my “progressive” pants on that day, because we are still friends and neighbors.

Like my friend, there are many people around the world who tend to believe differently than me about sex before marriage and co-habitation.  Most older generations married, stayed married and avoided divorce like the plague, until progressives started the sexual revolution.  How that came about may stem from teenagers being sick of seeing unhappy parents in a “dead-end” marriage and who were looking for peace, love and rock-n-roll? Whatever the reason, since that time, marriage has declined drastically.   People seem afraid of commitment and compromise which ironically, are espoused in marriage.

Marriage takes lifelong work and commitment and I would wager very few people entering within its bonds are equipped for such an endeavor….much like having children (no owner’s manual included…learn by the school of hard knocks).    No one wants to get a divorce with all of its hardship on all parties including legal ramifications.   Most Christian and many non-Christian religious advocates believe in marriage; however, now that religion is on the decline among progressives, traditional marriage may seem archaic. With all that said, and with all we see in our world today and the decline of the family, sexual diseases, sexual exploitation, pornography, sexual identity confusion, mental disorders (from sexual abuse), drugs/alcohol abuses, murder, suicide, corruption of governments, war, famine, pestilence and overall wickedness… our focus on progression really progressive?  Are we in a custody battle wherein progressives must go with one parent while the rest go with the other? Don’t we belong to the same human race family?  Isn’t there a far greater cry to attend in this world family than who is right or wrong?  Who is the source we look toward to find this answer?

“The doctrine and theology of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints literally start and end with family,” said Elder Ballard   I believe the traditional family is a fundamental pillar in the structure of humanity…but that is only my belief.  Just as my beliefs differ from those of my friend who is of my same religion, and many others around the globe, we must remain civil if we all want progression.  Time may prove that our indifference to our differences will limit or even deny individual rights, beliefs and religious freedom.

“Understanding that reasonable and sincere people may view marriage as only between people of the opposite gender, the public square must accommodate and religious freedom must protect such views,” he said. “Indeed, since religious beliefs can affect how believers view the very purpose of life, such views will inform how they interact with society.”

Compromise, he added, can seem difficult and distant in a time of “extremes.”

“We hear stories of people who have tried to be true to their standards, only to be accused of bigotry or intolerance or punished on a seemingly unreasonable scale,” he said.

Even amid the challenges, there is wide support for the Church’s view of traditional marriage. There can be no surrender in the defense of truth and values, he added.

“If those who oppose us are genuine in their commitment to the values of diversity and equality, we should be able to work together to find compassion and peace,” he said.

Elder Ballard said fellowship can exist between those who disagree.

“Just as we do not or should not shun family members with whom we disagree, we cannot and should not shun those who look or think or act differently than we do,” he said. “We demonstrate our best humanity when we show love and kindness to all of God’s children. We demonstrate our discipleship when we refuse strident tones, when we refuse derisive labels, and when we enter the public square seeking fair outcomes through understanding and mutual respect.”  Elder Ballard defends Traditional family at World Conference of Families

I could sit here at my computer and spout off hundreds of reasons why the Traditional Family is, in my opinion, the best pillar for an honest and civil society wherein its inhabitants can compromise (successful marriages are good at and children learn from parents behaviors) on differences of opinion but would that be progressive?  Should we take a stand and defend what we believe to be the “best” way by bullying everyone else who doesn’t think like us, or do we allow everyone free agency to choose for himself what he deems right?  Isn’t that what a true progressive is?  Shouldn’t a progressive thinker be about compromise and the ability to overlook one’s differences and by espousing the Golden Rule: “All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.”15  even if it means people within or without our own religion?

I really like my friend, even to the point of giving her a haircut in the faculty bathroom during our lunch break.  I surely don’t want to “dis” our friendship just because she believes differently than me.  Given more time and not such a “hairy” situation, I would love to sit down with her to go over why she feels that way especially considering it is such a dichotomy from our traditional family beliefs.   We could share our thoughts and feelings about a very controversial subject matter in a civil manner and really come out ahead by learning from one another.  Perhaps we could come to some kind of compromise in our opinions.   Even if we don’t agree, we can amicably disagree while being kind and accepting… that is what I call progress!